To the single ladies out there. Come on! Heads up and be proud!
To those who feel empty and that there’s something missing. To those who feel unwanted. To those who feel like they’re out of the trend; when everyone in the squad has found the love of their lives and you haven’t yet.
TAKE TIME TO READ THIS.
As a grown up, when you already graduated from college and got a job already, people around my age or even people who’s younger than I am already has their significant other. Living their lives with each other for months, years and some, their lifetime. There are times I felt jealous of those people. Being able to graduate in college together and all that #relationshipgoals they have. I almost felt the need to be in a relationship and I felt the urge to find someone whom I can possibly share my life with. But you know what? No matter how much you force love to get in your way, there are things that can’t be rushed. There are things that takes time to happen – and love is #1 on the list. You can’t just ask anybody to love you for the sake of needing someone to fill your heart with their love. NO. That is not possible. Love is something given voluntarily and not asked for. Love develops through time and that is for sure.
“Tatanda kang dalaga” (“you’ll grow up alone”), they say. Then I asked myself, what is it with me for not entering a relationship yet? Am I not ready yet? Am I not of the right age still? Am I afraid? Or maybe nobody likes me?
You know what my answer is? It isn’t my season yet. It isn’t the time to focus on finding my significant other yet. Just yet.
I don’t want to be in a relationship just for the sake of having a name to introduce to my family, friends or loved ones. Neither do I want to be in a relationship for the sake of peer pressure. I don’t want to say “yes” just because I want to be in a relationship or because love is really taking its time on me and that I’m tired of waiting. I don’t want it unless I am sure, really sure that I want to spend the rest of my life with that person.
I want to be with someone who shares the same faith as I am. Someone who would help me grow with my faith, who’ll help me with my walk with God. I want someone who won’t get tired of me but won’t tolerate my bad behavior. Someone who’s willing to wait because he knows that he’s not waiting for me but for God’s go signal. I want my future partner to be from God. Not because I wanted him but because God wanted me to have him. Not because I chose him but God chose Him for me.
I believe that person is worth the wait because as it is written in Romans 8:25, if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently. God has the perfect place, perfect time for everything. He has everything planned for you even before you were born. Keep in mind that God is still preparing our hearts for that season to come and when that day comes, it would be perfect. It would exceed your imaginations of meeting the one. It wouldn’t be the same as anyone else’s because God himself wrote your love story. He knows you by your name and He knows who your perfect match is. He will eventually lead you towards one another when He thinks that you’ve waited long enough and didn’t lose hope.
So, to those young ladies out there who thought that nobody likes them or nobody wants to be with them or any thoughts you have for not having your significant other, just wait.
JUST WAIT AND BE PATIENT.
That may be the hardest thing to do because you’ll never know what’s ahead of you. Or if someone really is taking their path towards you, but believe me when I say this: being able wait without any clue of what will happen means that you are entrusting your heart to God. It means that you have your faith in Him and that you trust Him and His ways. You don’t have to be in a hurry. I repeat, YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE IN A HURRY. If God already paired you with someone, even if it takes a hundred years, you will meet him. And even if you are already in a relationship but you are struggling and confused, God doesn’t want that for you. You are His child and you deserve nothing less than what He did for you on the cross. You are precious in His sight, you are holy in His sight and you are pure in His sight. You deserve all the best things in the world. You deserve someone who won’t make you feel any less. Nothing can break God’s plan for you. Do not waste your time trying to find love or trying to work on relationships that God didn’t want for you.
Instead, be thankful. God is saving you from all the heartaches you can get. Enjoy your time as a single while you still can. Hangout with your friends, meet new friends, know God more through His words so that that empty feeling in your heart will be filled with His love. 💖
Thank you, ladies for taking the time to read this. I hope you have learned something on this blog. Let’s keep in touch, okay?
Before I end this blog, let me share with you this verse:
“Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord said to her will be accomplished.” – Luke 1:45
Keep up with your faith.