WHY AM I STILL SINGLE?

To the single ladies out there. Come on! Heads up and be proud!

To those who feel empty and that there’s something missing. To those who feel unwanted. To those who feel like they’re out of the trend; when everyone in the squad has found the love of their lives and you haven’t yet.

TAKE TIME TO READ THIS.

As a grown up, when you already graduated from college and got a job already, people around my age or even people who’s younger than I am already has their significant other. Living their lives with each other for months, years and some, their lifetime. There are times I felt jealous of those people. Being able to graduate in college together and all that #relationshipgoals they have. I almost felt the need to be in a relationship and I felt the urge to find someone whom I can possibly share my life with. But you know what? No matter how much you force love to get in your way, there are things that can’t be rushed. There are things that takes time to happen – and love is #1 on the list. You can’t just ask anybody to love you for the sake of needing someone to fill your heart with their love. NO. That is not possible. Love is something given voluntarily and not asked for. Love develops through time and that is for sure.

“Tatanda kang dalaga” (“you’ll grow up alone”), they say. Then I asked myself, what is it with me for not entering a relationship yet? Am I not ready yet? Am I not of the right age still? Am I afraid? Or maybe nobody likes me?

You know what my answer is? It isn’t my season yet. It isn’t the time to focus on finding my significant other yet. Just yet.

I don’t want to be in a relationship just for the sake of having a name to introduce to my family, friends or loved ones. Neither do I want to be in a relationship for the sake of peer pressure. I don’t want to say “yes” just because I want to be in a relationship or because love is really taking its time on me and that I’m tired of waiting. I don’t want it unless I am sure, really sure that I want to spend the rest of my life with that person.

I want to be with someone who shares the same faith as I am. Someone who would help me grow with my faith, who’ll help me with my walk with God. I want someone who won’t get tired of me but won’t tolerate my bad behavior. Someone who’s willing to wait because he knows that he’s not waiting for me but for God’s go signal. I want my future partner to be from God. Not because I wanted him but because God wanted me to have him. Not because I chose him but God chose Him for me.

I believe that person is worth the wait because as it is written in Romans 8:25, if we hope for what we do not yet have, we wait for it patiently. God has the perfect place, perfect time for everything. He has everything planned for you even before you were born. Keep in mind that God is still preparing our hearts for that season to come and when that day comes, it would be perfect. It would exceed your imaginations of meeting the one. It wouldn’t be the same as anyone else’s because God himself wrote your love story. He knows you by your name and He knows who your perfect match is. He will eventually lead you towards one another when He thinks that you’ve waited long enough and didn’t lose hope.

So, to those young ladies out there who thought that nobody likes them or nobody wants to be with them or any thoughts you have for not having your significant other, just wait.

JUST WAIT AND BE PATIENT.

That may be the hardest thing to do because you’ll never know what’s ahead of you. Or if someone really is taking their path towards you, but believe me when I say this: being able wait without any clue of what will happen means that you are entrusting your heart to God. It means that you have your faith in Him and that you trust Him and His ways. You don’t have to be in a hurry. I repeat, YOU DON’T HAVE TO BE IN A HURRY. If God already paired you with someone, even if it takes a hundred years, you will meet him. And even if you are already in a relationship but you are struggling and confused, God doesn’t want that for you. You are His child and you deserve nothing less than what He did for you on the cross. You are precious in His sight, you are holy in His sight and you are pure in His sight. You deserve all the best things in the world. You deserve someone who won’t make you feel any less. Nothing can break God’s plan for you. Do not waste your time trying to find love or trying to work on relationships that God didn’t want for you.

Instead, be thankful. God is saving you from all the heartaches you can get. Enjoy your time as a single while you still can. Hangout with your friends, meet new friends, know God more through His words so that that empty feeling in your heart will be filled with His love. 💖


Thank you, ladies for taking the time to read this. I hope you have learned something on this blog. Let’s keep in touch, okay?

Before I end this blog, let me share with you this verse:

“Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord said to her will be accomplished.” – Luke 1:45

Keep up with your faith.

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thedreamella.wordpress.com

Hey hey hey you, guys! What’s up? How are you doing?

It’s been a year since my last post. I missed this. I missed blogging and sharing my thoughts. Aaand I missed giving my blog a new look! I’ve decided to start blogging again (though I won’t be posting from time to time because of work) and I thought that I should start this by redecorating my blog.

So, here it is!

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I decided to keep it close to what it looked like before. Just changed few things such as my logo, photo and my domain! Yay! I changed it to thedreamella.wordpress.com finally!

So, yeah, just wanted to share this with you guys.

Have a nice day, everyone!

And oh, don’t forget to keep your heads up but feet always on the ground. 💖

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THE SUNDAY CURRENTLY | 11

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Hi, everyone! It’s been 3 months since I last posted a TSC and I’m feeling happy that I got the chance to post an entry today. So, how’s life? Was it at its best these past months or is it just the same? Mine was at its best. God is good. No words can ever compare to His greatness. He is amazing in any ways.

Sadly, I haven’t attended church today because my mother took my grandmother with her at the church and no one’s left at home but me. But it’s okay for I know that God is with me all this time. No wonder why I felt blessed today. Thank you, Lord!

Now, let’s move on to the currentlies..

CURRENTLY

Reading

My last TSC post. I realized that I really haven’t posted anything these past months. Sad.

Writing

This entry.

Listening

To the aircon’s sound. I’m so close to it. Literally.

Thinking

About someone (I have been thinking of that someone for weeks now). But I will leave this all to God. I entrusted Him my heart. I know that He will never fail me.

Smelling

None.

Praying

For the one’s I love the most. (Yes, I changed “wishing” into “praying” because that’s how it should be for me.)

Hoping

For an answered prayer. I am willing to wait.

Wearing

My dad’s Lacoste t-shirt and a blue shorts. 😄

Loving

Every single day since May. 😍

Wanting

To lose weight. Hahaha

Needing

Peace of mind. Too many thoughts.

Feeling

So blessed. What have I ever done to be this blessed? I love you, Lord. You are the best! Thank you so much. ☺

 

So, how’d your Sunday turned out? 😉

And oh, don’t forget to join The Sunday Currently link-up by siddathornton! 💋

To the one God has prepared for me,

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*photo credits to the owner*

Hi. I know by now, we have no idea that we’re going to meet soon enough when our hearts are ready and when God thinks that it’s time already. But know that I am praying for you and I am waiting for you.

I have no idea if we met already; if you’re one of my friends or if you are a complete stranger. I have no idea of who you are. But God knows you very well. He knows what you always do, whether you’re singing or dancing. He knows what time you wake up, he knows your daily routine, He knows what you are struggling with, He knows when you’re happy or sad. He even knows what your thoughts are.. I hope that He found me in your thoughts just like how He found you in mine.

So, how’s life to you? Is it exciting and fun? Or is it the other way around?

I am living a happy and blessed life today. I hope you are too. By the way, I am so excited to meet you soon. I am excited to thank God because He already gave me you. I can’t wait for the day that I will say “yes” to you because we know that we waited for God’s perfect time. But most of all, I am excited to serve Him with you by my side. Praising Him together, singing songs to Him, dancing for Him, or even playing the instruments all for His glory. Are you excited too?

I know that all of this waiting will be worth it in the end because I am waiting for a man of God. I am waiting for someone who would love God more than he will love me. Let us be patient together, okay? We may cross different paths now but I believe that when it’s time, God will lead us the way until we are on the same path already. Let us hold on and never lose our faith.

Take care of yourself for me, please?

I don’t know whether you’ll be fine along the journey or if you would be hurt at times. But please know that my prayers are with you always. Through the bad times or good, know that at the end of those, you’ll see me still waiting for you, smiling.. and uttering the words, “thank you Lord, he’s finally here.”

Here’s to more days/months/years of waiting for the right one and for God’s time. ☺

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All I Want

All I want is to be where you are.

I’ll go anywhere as long as I’m with you.

All I want is for you to hold me in your arms

Like no one else would do.

And all I want is to feel your touch

And all I want is to feel your love

Your love, I couldn’t ask for more

Your love, there’s nothing I want more

But you

‘Cause all I ever wanted is you

And all I ever dream of is to feel your embrace

To hold you

And to kiss you

To love you.

All I ever wanted is you.


Here’s to the song lyrics I composed few weeks ago. Have you taught of someone while reading? I did. ☺

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LIFE LATELY | WHAT I’VE BEEN UP TO THESE PAST WEEKS

Hello. I haven’t posted for a long time now. 😄

I didn’t even had the time to post my TSC for weeks now. I’ve been so busy these past weeks. Busy painting the walls at the coffee shop, busy with school-related stuffs and with everything else. I missed this so here I am. I am about to update you, guys about what’s happening with my life lately. ☺

So where do I start?

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When you feel like quitting..

There this point in life when you’ll feel like giving up but always remember that there’s also these things called time, rest and motivation. You just need to wait for a minute or an hour, a day or two, maybe a month but all the waiting will be worth it in end. We shouldn’t keep pushing ourselves when we’ve tried a lot already and got the same result every time. Cool down, relax yourself and when you feel like giving it a try again, then go. Lastly, you’ll never run out of motivation. Motivation comes from anyone, it may even come from yourself. Find what motivates you and let that motivation run to you all day long until you achieved what you are aiming for.

Also, at the peak of giving up, always think of the reason why you started. And if that doesn’t work anymore, might as well think of the people you are looking up to and ask yourself, “would they be happy to see me giving up? To see me not finishing what I started?”. Whatever the answer is, I hope you’ll find the motivation to go on.

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